INFJ Doodles

There are many solvable problems that aren’t solvable for as long as you are unwilling or unable to see the solution. 

It’s interesting seeing people desiring to be understood, to connect, yet also wanting to hold themselves away. How much of yourself will you show in order to connect? How much of yourself do you need to hide to feel safe?

The other people being around me is a bit disappointing at times (it’s awesome when they’re awesome!). But, I usually put my headphones on (often not listening to anything) and just think, when on a plane.

It was an odd realization, how much emotional energy I’ve been pouring into work. And, really, that’s my pattern whenever I’m single. Suddenly I increase the amount of energy I pour out at work and speed things up. It’s wonderful but, can also be very draining. It’s easy to not realize how much energy you’re spending where.

I’ve noticed Ts in general being happier trying new things out if you throw the label “experiment” on them, then success or failure you succeed by virtue of having more knowledge. Cognitive functions aren’t skills that you level up—however by becoming more comfortable with skills in different areas, the less alien these things will seem (and the less alien parts of yourself will seem). 

People get very attached to a scientific mindset and that’s where I’ve noticed scary justifications can happen—people of x type are like y therefore z. I prefer the side of MBTI that is massive amounts of research on job/relationship happiness. Regardless of how accurate/inaccurate those are (and how accurate/inaccurate people’s self-assements are) I find they often bring forth interesting ideas. “This type of person is likely to do x”..have I seen that to be true? When isn’t it true? 

It’s odd to think of how many untrustworthy people are. Or rather, it’s odd to see people be screwed over by other people. I’ve had one betrayal which inadvertently triggered another. Those are the only two times in my life I can think of that I felt betrayed. And the first, I wasn’t listening to my intuition on. I ignored my instincts. It was hard to trust my judgement after that yet, I had to accept that I wasn’t really paying attention to it.

I got an anon ask, how is it that I can love people so much when there are so many terrible people. I can see the things that have twisted them, the things that have caused different people to hurt others. I can see the damage that’s been done to them, emotion and pain. I always react strongly to sociopaths because they don’t have that. And I don’t hate those. Just notice them as sharks in the water and prepare to react.