I'm having difficulty differentiating whether I'm an ISFJ or INFJ. For a long time, I settled with INFJ because I felt like my Sensing side was underdeveloped. Now though, I'm looking more into the Keirsey Temperaments and I feel like I show a lot of signs of Idealist and Guardian, as odd as it is. I feel like internally, I believe I'm an Idealist with Guardian tendencies, but externally, it's vice versa. I guess I was just wondering what your take on this was and if you could maybe help a bit?
As an INFJ that once dated an ISFJ I find this interesting!
Anecdotal: The ISFJ I knew would often get to the same place or conclusion as I would, but we got there very differently. I find it difficult to quote anyone, ever. He was very good at remembering details about people and noticing details about people. I fixate on connections, the abstract relationships between people. I don’t think much on their actions.
One of my go-tos for determining type is to look at type under stress—ISFJ vs. INFJ. Sometimes it’s very easy to relate to the positive things said about a type, but locating your weaknesses, or stress areas will often get there more accurately. Which type under stress do you relate to more? Are you a bad ENTP (ISFJ), or a bad ESTP (INFJ)?
You could also look through the functions, I’m a fan of Beebe’s model (scroll down to HERO, from there your hero would be Ni or Si, your parent would be Fe, child of Ti, and anima of Se or Ne).