It’s also hard for me to stop and realize that my expectations of myself are unrealistic. They’re not normally unrealistic in a not doable sense but, in a not sustainable sense. It’s very easy to drive myself into the ground working.
It’s also hard for me to stop and realize that my expectations of myself are unrealistic. They’re not normally unrealistic in a not doable sense but, in a not sustainable sense. It’s very easy to drive myself into the ground working.
Have you ever stopped to notice how often people’s words of advice say the same thing? “Doubt yourself. You don’t know what you want or need.” I don’t believe that’s right. Or at least, I know I don’t want to live my life that way.
This is an aspect I’ve seen in most INTJs. The one I adore lots and drew above is an awesome artist. She’s been doing more teaching lately and learning how to explain her process.
Type of INTJ to be most mistaken for an ISTJ. Unlike the ISTJ, this INTJ cared more about the node/connection point than the step by step by step. Though he might seek out all the information about everything, he wouldn’t pull for every detail.
My ENFP friend was pointing out how Js usually avoid reacting (vs. avoiding planning). I don’t do just going with the flow that well. So, I would rather just follow someone who does.
Extraverted Intuition & Introverted Intuition play quite awesomely together. Hanging out with ENxPs it feels like they lay down a bunch of paths and I want to charge down further on one/some.
I don’t rebel against TJs as much as I used to (given most of my friends are TJs). Sometimes the information is presented as ‘all these people say x, so x is right!’ which makes me go ‘in what sample size? under what conditions? what about in this case or that case?’ There has to be a case where this isn’t true!
I can tell I’m to be entertained (then sigh and walk away), when a TJ pulls out a dictionary.com definitions of an FJ (social/societal/subjective) concept. Yes, please tell me about this one instance of something that agrees with your viewpoint, I am riveted. Of course, on the flip side I find this hilarious—and it made one of my favorite TJs sigh and go “Ti is missing the point.”
I’ve known an interesting spectrum of INTJs. The emotionally open and settled, to the emotionally suppressed (who would like to pretend to be a robot), to the emotionally indifferent. Of the last kind I now write, the one I knew best was indifferent to people looking for more emotions. It didn’t bother him when people searched for emotions but, exploration and expression of emotions wasn’t something he considered a worthwhile pursuit. Emotions would sometimes be expressed a couple days later with indifference (“X made me uncomfortable, I didn’t realize it at the time.”).
Quoting an INTP, of course! It’s interesting seeing him seek someone’s reaction to an idea, not necessarily supporting the idea but, supporting the consideration of the idea.
I can now see that pretty solidly as projection and find my Fi friends (TJ & Fps) to be exceptionally nonjudgmental.* Just good or bad actions, not making a decision on the whole. I also find them to be much softer when it comes to most emotional things.
*Except sometimes they make “she/he is a bad person” judgement calls which I find fascinating because I hardly ever find someone to be a good or bad person. It usually comes out when they’re being fiercely protective.