It’s interesting the people you fall in with. I think when you’re younger it’s much harder to choose your friends. You have the people you’re around (I grew up a small town, so that’s part of it). Though when you’re older it can be harder to find new ones. I grew up in Alaska. Given the choice of SJs and SPs I found myself with far more SP friends. It does put context around the amount of spur of the moment ridiculous. I remember being annoyed that my friends were usually late, didn’t seem to ever plan and wouldn’t make decisions. I find it really funny because they were mostly go-with-the-flow, let’s-keep-moving SPs. Yay, random adventure! The IF friend tested as an INFJ once, she was close on the N/S & P/J, I’m not sure about that. A lot our disagreements seemed more INFJ/INFP clashing. But, two INFJs with different systems would clash.
The guy ESFP is now in the military doesn’t really know what he wants out of life, he’s going where people say he should go. He’s still super passionate but, I think he’s taking another look at things. The ISFJ and I had a falling out I never let go of (being lied to). We weren’t close enough that I would seek to repair it though I have no hard feelings. The ISTP is married and still a happy go lucky knowledge seeker that loves getting things done. The ESTP I caught up recently, he’s been the closest to me after I left Alaska but, we can go a while without communication. He doesn’t have a job, he does odd jobs to pay the bills. He’s an extreme jack of all trades. The ISFP…he’s couch surfing, adrift in life. I wish him well and hope he figures it out. He cuts people out a bit. Whenever the INTJ and I run into each other, it’s effortless to get back on the same note. She’s a writer and chasing after the dream.
Now? I don’t seem to know many SPs. There’s one ESFP that every time I see her I remember why I adore her. I should hang out with more S’es, you need to have people that pull you out of your head.
Ever stop to think about the people around you now, compared to the ones you had when you were younger?