INFJ Doodles

It’s frustrating dealing with someone who seems to be functioning the same way you are, but, that leaps to conclusions that don’t line up. With other NFJs I can just “pull out my maps” (lay out the things I know to be true/my worldview/my emotional logic) and prod at theirs until we come to an understanding. An ESTP that is pushed into their shadow, often acts as a “bad INFJ”.

In general I find ExxPs easy and enjoyable to bounce off of.

It’s fun hanging out with people that notice completely different things than you do. I find I’m much more aware of my surroundings are SPs, because of how in the world they are. <3 SPs!

I know a couple different ESTPs. Two of them are about the same but, very different. One is prone to long term (years) monogamous relationships, a hopeless romantic and very dedicated to the people he is involved with. The other flits around a lot and doesn’t emotionally connect to anyone. It’s interesting that they function in the same way, have some of the same mentalities but, are completely different on relationships.

It’s interesting the people you fall in with. I think when you’re younger it’s much harder to choose your friends. You have the people you’re around (I grew up a small town, so that’s part of it). Though when you’re older it can be harder to find new ones. I grew up in Alaska. Given the choice of SJs and SPs I found myself with far more SP friends. It does put context around the amount of spur of the moment ridiculous. I remember being annoyed that my friends were usually late, didn’t seem to ever plan and wouldn’t make decisions. I find it really funny because they were mostly go-with-the-flow, let’s-keep-moving SPs. Yay, random adventure! The IF friend tested as an INFJ once, she was close on the N/S & P/J, I’m not sure about that. A lot our disagreements seemed more INFJ/INFP clashing. But, two INFJs with different systems would clash.

The guy ESFP is now in the military doesn’t really know what he wants out of life, he’s going where people say he should go. He’s still super passionate but, I think he’s taking another look at things. The ISFJ and I had a falling out I never let go of (being lied to). We weren’t close enough that I would seek to repair it though I have no hard feelings. The ISTP is married and still a happy go lucky knowledge seeker that loves getting things done. The ESTP I caught up recently, he’s been the closest to me after I left Alaska but, we can go a while without communication. He doesn’t have a job, he does odd jobs to pay the bills. He’s an extreme jack of all trades. The ISFP…he’s couch surfing, adrift in life. I wish him well and hope he figures it out. He cuts people out a bit. Whenever the INTJ and I run into each other, it’s effortless to get back on the same note. She’s a writer and chasing after the dream.

Now? I don’t seem to know many SPs. There’s one ESFP that every time I see her I remember why I adore her. I should hang out with more S’es, you need to have people that pull you out of your head.

Ever stop to think about the people around you now, compared to the ones you had when you were younger? 

When things happen like skiing down a black diamond—just in the moment going for it, Se feels like a super power. I wish it weren’t so draining.

I found it hard to explain my thought process until I started diagramming things. Pictures, they explain things.

It’s weird when I hit the in-the-moment switch of just doing things and saying things exactly as I see them. This can sometimes be insensitively direct.. I’ve unintentionally hurt two thinkers with my bluntness in the recent past. (In part, because I think they expect a feeler to always be in kind hearted feeler mode…not super direct objective thinker mode.)

The flip side of an INFJ (Ni, Fe, Ti, Se) is an ESTP (Se, Ti, Fe, Ni). Following my impulses often leads to interesting situations. My SP-self definitely balances out my NJ nature.

SPs are fun to hang out with because rather than talking about “do we want to do this or that?” they usually decide to start doing something. Which flies in the face of their sometimes indecisive Perceiver nature.