INTJ who has strong Fi (introverted feeling) and seems like a white knight is very different from an INFJ—even if they might seem a lot alike (extraverted thinking and feeling being two different animals). I’ve noticed the White Knight in mature INTJs, grounded in their ideals. This one was once my boss, he left a less than shiny company to start his own company. He has strong vision for the product and the functioning of the team. He would definitely not describe himself as a white knight. Just someone who has to do what they have to do.
Posted 1 day ago
It’s odd to me to want information entirely locked up. I don’t think people always want it to be (“I don’t want you telling anyone that I like him! But..if you’re talking to him and I happen to come up, maybe you’ll mention something cool I did?”). I prefer to trust people with things, inform them of which things I tell few people but, trust that they won’t misuse any information I give them.
Posted 3 days ago
Said by an INTP friend when we were talking about relationships. I was like “oh, man! Extraverted feeling…it’s a pain sometimes.” The desire to harmonize can be obnoxious.
Posted 4 days ago
I don’t think I’ve started with hey…actual statement is context appropriate friendly gesture. The opener usually being a sad half-smile and a sigh/shrug.
Posted 5 days ago
During my annual review a couple months ago, my boss commented on how with most people/teams he gives them assistance with political things and, he doesn’t seem to need to do that for me. I was really happy to hear that. I was hiding under my hands when I sent him the email that start with “…help?” Nothing too dramatic, just leaping forward and stumbling into a growling ESTJ (whose grit I normally appreciate).
Posted 6 days ago
I find that I now have a complimentary skill set to that possessed by my INTJ friends. Once you learn to be soft with each other’s weak spots a lot of mutual growth and support can happen.
Posted 1 week ago
Sometimes INTPs say things that remind me they have Fe (extraverted feeling) and I want to give them lots of hugs. (I don’t, because I respect boundaries and most the INTPs I know, dislike unexpected hugs.) The INTP I work with is in his late 40s, very pragmatic about who he can help with what. He has moments where he’s a bit sad he can’t make all the people happy. He usually shrugs it off like a thing shouldn’t matter.
Posted 1 week ago
When someone says such a thing it’s usually coming from an emotional “I don’t want you here” angle. Not with factual, “you can go deal with your family stuff because the things will still get done” intent.
I'm an INFJ. I love people. I love analyzing them. You'll find some of my thoughts here. I do a doodle a day, seven days a week. I'm going until the thoughts empty out of my head.
